Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.
It was the first year I went, and even though it was for singles, I was dating someone at the time, a man previously married. My boyfriend and I spent time together, but we weren’t inseparable like you might think.
But what does starting over after divorce look like? You cannot see the forest for the trees; you cannot see around the bend.
In the aftermath of a divorce, every man and woman needs to decide how he or she will start over.
Your ex may or may not be a part of your life in the future, but he or she should not be a big part of who you in the future. It is also important to reflect on what mistakes you made in your marriage (many times the primary mistake is choice of partner, but this requires you to evaluate yourself also as you were the one who made the choice) and make necessary changes in your attitude, behavior and perceptions before moving back into dating.
There are countless divorce support groups out there; if you can find one tailored specifically to Christians then that's great but any divorce support group should definitely be considered (rather than trying to be your own support or seeking support from those too close to the situation).
At the time this annoyed me, and I wondered if he was as into me as I hoped.
One afternoon I had been on the beach since after the morning general session, but I had not heard from my boyfriend all day.
Most of the divorcés I met actually had less baggage and fewer hang-ups than some of the ‘forever singles’!The months immediately following divorce should probably be spent revaluating yourself as a single individual, as opposed to half of a unified entity.When one spends enough intimate time with another, a bond is built which has a way of making both partners feel one with each other; this is a beautiful aspect of love but it can also be a hard thing to shake when that love disappears.I knew it was unfair: many people’s marriages end against their will, and through no fault of their own.But I couldn’t shake the feeling that they’d already proved they had no staying power.