I was young, and, accent aside, it was exciting to be going on my first date in Paris. And why in God’s name would the waiter be telling us this? Checking the weather before leaving my apartment wouldn’t have been the worst idea either.The New York Times restaurant review had let me down! Helping her into a taxicab, I figured I’d never see her again.They’re WAY LESS jealous than American ones, mostly because they’re more independant.American system tends to glorify marriage, I mean that it’s considered as the ultimate achievement and vector of happiness.Blogs, books and magazine articles never seem to tire of coming-of-age love stories featuring young, Anglo-saxon women and dapper French men – no matter how trite and embellished they may be.Few, however, share the experiences of Anglo men and their adventures in dating.Remember that we’re the country of “the little black dress” (Famous saying of Coco Chanel: “You don’t need to be rich to have style, all you need is a little black dress.”) That’s something still very deeply rooted in French every day fashion.
The mix of laissez-faire attitude and unabashed attention can be baffling for an American more used to the game of Do You Like Me? It’s like you skip courtship and go directly to coupledom shortly after exchanging texts.Things will be slightly different if they’re both foreigners in a third country.Knowing these local rules is of an utmost importance.I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.